The Big Idea

For the last 22 years on this earth, I have successfully managed to avoid anything slightly resembling monogamy. But I fear my time is running out. I have decided to commemorate my years of playing games and frolicking around before some significant other turns my brain to mush and I forget my glory years. I shall share my tricks, my tips, and my mistakes so you can learn how to a better version of your current self- you can thank me now.

166 Responses to “The Big Idea”

  1. sirtilc42 February 8, 2012 at 12:08 pm #

    Your blog is simply brilliant. I LOVE it.

  2. DaCoNNoiSSeur February 8, 2012 at 3:17 pm #

    I am really feeling your blog. The originality is wonderful and the substance is relative to many young women treading water in the dating pool. Keep writing. I’ll keep reading.

    • ellayourbella February 8, 2012 at 3:21 pm #

      Haha thank you much! I’m trying to bring a little satire/humor to sometimes a very difficult pursuit.

  3. d. durand February 8, 2012 at 3:32 pm #

    Typo aside I am all in. I got my pen and notepad and eagerly taking notes! By the way, thanks a million for the “Like” on my little corner of the universe. Ciao.

  4. sirtilc42 February 8, 2012 at 3:39 pm #

    Ella, we should team up on a blog or three!

    • ellayourbella February 8, 2012 at 3:42 pm #

      Haha shoot me your ideas and we can work something out.

  5. sirtilc42 February 8, 2012 at 3:44 pm #

    Sure thing. Shoot me an email: LOLIVARES@BELLSOUTH.NET
    I don’t see yours here, but that’s likely to prevent those discarded ones from finding you!

  6. amber February 9, 2012 at 7:00 am #

    Hey Ella! Thanks so much for liking a recent post of mine – so glad you did, since it led me here! Your writing is open, honest, and hilarious, and I’ll definitely be back.

    Cheers!
    Amber

  7. Lisa February 9, 2012 at 8:14 am #

    I’m absolutely in love with your blog! I’ve made quite a few mistakes myself haha, I just blame freshman year in general…

  8. Marisa Marciano February 9, 2012 at 5:28 pm #

    Ella your blog is the cutest! Thanks so much for the “Like” since it brought me here and now I can’t stop smiling :)

  9. Datestable February 12, 2012 at 4:24 am #

    Hi, Ella, cool blog and thanks for the love!

  10. AmeliaAdamo February 14, 2012 at 5:59 pm #

    Love your blog idea. Great idea!

  11. VoxRev February 20, 2012 at 6:44 pm #

    Your blog is awesome. It’s funny, witty and insightful (especially for those of us of the male persuasion). Excellent job.

  12. pearlessence February 24, 2012 at 3:44 pm #

    I have nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. Thanks for always keeping me entertained!

    • ellayourbella February 25, 2012 at 4:42 pm #

      Thank you, so awesome! I gotta check out the other nominees too :)

  13. lifeloverain February 27, 2012 at 3:03 pm #

    Madame!!
    Totally new to this blogging thing! :) Now Following Yours and good riddance to bad rubbish (these discarded men of ours.) <3 Nina

    • ellayourbella February 28, 2012 at 10:30 am #

      Good luck with the new blogging!!! Thanks for following :)

  14. gng1 February 28, 2012 at 1:36 pm #

    Great blog, love your perspective and thought provoking philosphy. .

    • ellayourbella February 28, 2012 at 3:45 pm #

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate the feedback <3

  15. DressySJP February 29, 2012 at 12:33 pm #

    Super fun, I always love a single blog haha

    You might want to think about joining a single blogger’s network of women called Single Edition (google and check it out). It’s a great way to expand your own network, see you on the blogs! :-)
    (do you tweet?)

    • ellayourbella February 29, 2012 at 2:19 pm #

      Ya I just got a twitter in Feb, I’m new to it. Im @ellayourbella! Thanks for the tips!!!

  16. UnstableMusicritic March 1, 2012 at 4:55 pm #

    Miss Ella,

    … That is where our agreeableness ends.

    Unfortunately, I was disappointed to see so much sexism and hate placed towards the Male side of the human race. I am one of those 20-30 year olds you mentioned in “For Men’s Eyes Only” in which you discussed men in this following age criteria as… Tools. Well thank you for preconceiving my personality before even meeting me. Honestly, i loved your beginning, wishing to “empower young women in the dating scene” and you use your… experiences as examples. In fact, much of what you did say about men, and them not having to act like body parts, I could easily turn it around and say the same about women. In fact much of what you seem to “criticize” about men, one could easily turn around and criticize about women.

    I choose not to go off into a tangent and degrade my point, But i do wish to say this:

    Most of your advice, though constructive in many respects, is also very generalized. Your trying to create a one stop shop guide to dating the 20 something man. A noble goal, if not futile. We are human beings, we act, react, we change, we differ, we are the infinite variable. To create a guide is like buying technology. Buy the latest gadget and a week later it is outdated and not including the various expansions and addon’s.

    Women are complex. Individually, that’s debatable at times. Exact same thing can be said for men (Trust me, I have seen some dumb… dumb men…) But to say that any person between this age and this age is a tool, or a bitch, or an idiot, is a fallacy.

    Could it be perhaps that you have not chosen your men appropriately as well? maybe there is a nice, perfect boy, who happens to be less attractive, less assertive, or perhaps shy to talk, that you haven’t considered in your “Discarded men” (Which makes me feel a bit like your comparing a person, a human being to a tampon or napkin) Section….

    All I’m saying is A guide needs to be written… depending on situations. A new guy, a new guide. Sure it may contain sections from previous guides, but it is still a New Guide.

    That’s my opinion, and again, thanks for the like. I look forward to hearing your opinion.

    Unstable

    • ellayourbella March 1, 2012 at 5:35 pm #

      Unstable,

      I am flattered that you would take the time to compose such a lengthy response. In short, I feel that one can never “win ‘em all.”
      I appreciate your insight. Thankfully, these posts have found the majority of the audience well.

      I couldn’t possibly accept all the compliments and endorsements, without the occasional dissent.

      Thanks for reading!

      Ella

      • UnstableMusicritic March 1, 2012 at 6:37 pm #

        You welcome, And i respect such a wonderful response.

        I hope you’ll continue to read mine from time to time as well.

        Unstable.

  17. YYChristian March 5, 2012 at 12:34 pm #

    Great blog! Great insight! Lookin forward to reading more!

    • ellayourbella March 5, 2012 at 1:01 pm #

      Thank you!!!

      • YYChristian March 5, 2012 at 1:04 pm #

        No Worries!

  18. thefobbymotherland March 12, 2012 at 1:57 am #

    love it!! almost makes me feel like I found a far away twin (okay, younger sister). I actually always wanted to do a VERY similar blog but never got around to it. x

    • Ella March 12, 2012 at 1:58 am #

      Haha, I waited about a year & half before making it. Which gave me plenty of time to go on more horrific dates. When you get around to it let me know!
      I’ll check it out.

      • thefobbymotherland March 12, 2012 at 2:03 am #

        hah yes when I make the time AND work up the balls! in the meantime, can’t wait to read more of yours!!

  19. alundeberg March 13, 2012 at 8:58 am #

    This is too funny and too true and very fun to read! It’s bringing back memories of my own travails in the dating world.

  20. wrmcewen March 14, 2012 at 6:39 pm #

    BAM! Ella, nice work – you’re fuckin’ stella.

    • Ella March 14, 2012 at 6:40 pm #

      Bahaha thank you!!

  21. sorryiamnotsorry March 14, 2012 at 8:09 pm #

    Congratulations! I’ve nominated you for the The Versatile Blogger Award! Thanks for all of your awesome posts! I <3 your blog

  22. tattlestalesnthings March 15, 2012 at 4:02 pm #

    Why hello beautiful! you are sooooo funnny!

  23. fulltimegangsta March 15, 2012 at 8:12 pm #

    Hey! I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award!! Your blog is awesome <3

    Check out the details here

  24. xoxo bb March 19, 2012 at 10:35 pm #

    Congratulations!

    I’ve nominated you for The Versatile Blogger Award for your amazing posts that I adore!

  25. Thomas Kelleher March 28, 2012 at 11:53 am #

    Hi there Ella! For what it’s worth, I like your blog. Come back and visit again soon!

  26. Ginger Louise April 5, 2012 at 9:22 am #

    You’re so precious and scandalous all rolled up in a beautiful and hilarious package! Keep it up pretty girl!

    • Ella April 5, 2012 at 6:06 pm #

      Thank you!!!!!

  27. Lia C. April 12, 2012 at 8:15 am #

    Love! Hilarious. Keep it up, though I’ve no doubt that one day, there will be that one to turn your insides to mush, because my thought process was much like yours, a few years ago.

    • Ella April 12, 2012 at 9:38 am #

      Haha did things turn out for the best? do i have a hopeful or bleak future ahead of me?

  28. truthseeker411 April 13, 2012 at 8:35 am #

    I must say I have enjoyed reading your blog! Very creative! In the world of dating we all have a story or two…………Keep telling yours in this fun and insightful way! Kudos!!

    • Ella April 13, 2012 at 9:20 am #

      THANK YOU!!!!

      • truthseeker411 April 13, 2012 at 9:27 am #

        Your Welcome and Thank you for the like on my post!

  29. renhir April 13, 2012 at 11:45 am #

    Thanks for visiting male/female.

    • Ella April 13, 2012 at 11:49 am #

      for sure :)

  30. MDBurgos April 13, 2012 at 12:08 pm #

    I’m going to be following your blog because I was laughing out loud. I’ve had a few of your experiences! I hope that run into each other again.

  31. Dating Hopeful April 13, 2012 at 11:49 pm #

    You are my HERO. Single ladies, REJOICE! Ella is here! :)

    • Ella April 13, 2012 at 11:52 pm #

      That just made me smile! I’m glad you like the blog :)

  32. pumpkingranola April 15, 2012 at 8:35 am #

    Very refreshing to read, your blog!

  33. practicallysingle April 15, 2012 at 11:46 am #

    Your site is totally amazing! Your insights are right on.

  34. lillythehtcat April 16, 2012 at 10:51 am #

    love it…while im not sure if my world is ready for your world…i did kinda sorta mention you in my blog today…i live a long way away so i dont think you will hunt me down.
    lilly

  35. Myxl Dove April 17, 2012 at 1:42 pm #

    Okay, first of all… thanks for reading and liking my posts. Secondly, I really should’ve visited your blog sooner. Your writing style is fabulous, the content is interesting and your personality really comes through in the humor. And fifthly (math = not my best subject), looks like you’ve got really good readership numbers. Any suggestions are welcome. ;-)

  36. howtoonlinedate April 18, 2012 at 5:00 am #

    awesome blog…love your discarded men section!

    • Ella April 18, 2012 at 11:25 am #

      Thanks Angie!!

  37. mrmarymuthafuckingpoppins April 18, 2012 at 12:28 pm #

    You have a coool blog so far ive really really enjoyed it :-)

    • Ella April 18, 2012 at 12:50 pm #

      thank you that makes me so happy!

  38. clownonfire April 18, 2012 at 12:40 pm #

    Ella,
    I have to ask… With a title like Elle Elle l’a…. Are you a fellow French native speaker?
    Le Clown

    • Ella April 18, 2012 at 12:50 pm #

      malheureusement, non. Juste que j’aime Kate Ryan.

      • clownonfire April 18, 2012 at 12:51 pm #

        Ella,
        Je comprends!! Well, I’ll follow you from this point on.
        Le Nice to Meet You Clown

      • Ella April 18, 2012 at 12:53 pm #

        Nice to meet you too!

  39. miss p April 19, 2012 at 1:35 pm #

    Awesome blog……. shared the link with my girlie….
    I have to say I was a virgin till I was married. I married young, and there were a few close calls, but I have to say I was a virgin. After 23 years of marriage divorce came around. Now I am on this dating scene of craziness. Is there any normal men around for real?

    • Ella April 26, 2012 at 2:09 pm #

      No idea. still waiting to find a good one.

  40. Em Loves Rock & Roll April 26, 2012 at 3:11 pm #

    Pretty hilarious and very entertaining. Keep writing so I have something good to read.

  41. isaiah43123 April 26, 2012 at 5:31 pm #

    Thanks for stopping by

  42. everylineinthebook April 27, 2012 at 8:18 am #

    Awesome blog!

  43. Finally... Wendy Wanders May 1, 2012 at 11:53 am #

    This is my first time to your blog and and can I just say “WOW”. This looks fabulous! I’m looking forward to really getting into it. Too bad I didn’t have something like to use as a reference 20 years ago… uhh… I mean 25! Thanks again for stopping by!! :-)

  44. seekingmonsieur May 2, 2012 at 4:12 pm #

    Hey Ms. Lady, Thanks again for stopping by my site and reading “Hit the Road Jack chp. 3″

  45. poetart May 5, 2012 at 3:22 pm #

    Cool blog.. will come again. :)

  46. Gipsy Jules May 9, 2012 at 5:05 am #

    Thank you, Ella, for stopping by and liking my post!

    I’ve just read your post “Choosing A Fraternity Formal Date” and I think it’s brilliant. If I were living in the USA, and young enough to be still at college, I would do the impossible to get you as my date ;)

    Cheers!

    • Ella May 9, 2012 at 5:24 pm #

      you’re making me blush!

      • Gipsy Jules May 10, 2012 at 5:12 am #

        Oh, that’s a good symptom!

  47. theimmatureman May 9, 2012 at 8:01 am #

    I think you should link my blog to yours so that your female readers can get an inside look into men’s minds. LOL.

  48. zobopwerk145 May 9, 2012 at 8:26 am #

    Before your mind turns to mush, thanks for liking one of my posts! :) Happy blog-walking!

  49. Shimky May 10, 2012 at 3:39 pm #

    We all make mistakes. None of us are perfect. You just gotta distinguish between the non-perfect and the f’ing a’holes.

    Keep writing, Girl!

  50. Pyper1384 May 11, 2012 at 3:54 pm #

    I was under the impression that blogs had a kind of automatic disclaimer, that being said, I am impressed with your acceptance of criticism as well as praise. To me that shows a gracious and humorous personality. Enjoy yourself safely until you turn to mush, as you say, I personally love my mushy state and hope for the best for you! (Whether that is mushy or not.)

  51. crubin May 14, 2012 at 11:12 am #

    This is the most creative idea for a blog I’ve yet encountered. And that is tough to do in this competitive blogging world! Nice work.

    • Ella May 14, 2012 at 11:57 am #

      thank you so much!!! that is probably the best compliment I’ve ever received about this blog. Take care <3

  52. R. E. Hunter May 14, 2012 at 12:24 pm #

    Hi Ella, thanks

  53. auzilegreen May 14, 2012 at 3:03 pm #

    i have saw your blog, it’s very brilliant to me event this is my first glance. keep up the good work!

  54. Navy Wife Chronicles May 14, 2012 at 7:53 pm #

    You are so hilarious! LOVE IT! I will live vicariously through your blog and seriously, live your life before you find yourself settled down with kids and dogs and a mortgage like… aaargh… me! My nieces in their twenties and thirties are feeling the pressure to settle down but I say, HELL NO! Have fun!

    Alma
    Navy Wife Chronicles
    http://navywifechronicles.wordpress.com

    • Ella May 14, 2012 at 8:57 pm #

      I’m in my early 20s and I feel the pressure. so much pressure

  55. penandswordstroke85 May 14, 2012 at 10:03 pm #

    Miss Ella! Nice to see someone else channeling their experiences into something creative. I’ll have to check back in and see what other morsels of insight you have to offer.

    Take care,

    O’Brian

  56. itsgoodtobethecook May 15, 2012 at 6:08 am #

    Your blog rocks! I’m glad to have come across this! You go girl… can’t wait to read more :)

  57. loserwon May 15, 2012 at 1:34 pm #

    Awesome stuff, keep it up. I hope to not make it to your bad list, but every guy THINKS he is good. :) All I need is the Audition. lol

  58. byamandaleigh May 16, 2012 at 3:09 pm #

    I am loving your blog. It reminds me somewhat of my younger days… Please keep up the writing, I adore the way you write. Your writing is one of my favorites, so please accept my nomination for the Beautiful Blogger award. And keep on writing, more stories, more stories!
    Amanda

    http://byamandaleigh.com/2012/05/16/beautiful-dont-you-know/

    • Ella May 16, 2012 at 4:16 pm #

      Thank you I realllly appreciate it Amanda!

  59. Jennifer's Journal May 20, 2012 at 11:56 am #

    Now this is a totally different blog! I like it :)

    • Ella May 21, 2012 at 9:04 pm #

      thanks Jennifer!!!!

  60. chimidongha May 22, 2012 at 10:23 pm #

    You are freakin’ hilarious. So glad that I got linked to yours!

  61. megan May 23, 2012 at 10:48 am #

    I’ve spent the last hour laughing so hard that my abs hurt because of you. Way to go!
    Best,
    Megan

    • Ella May 23, 2012 at 10:56 am #

      that makes me so happy to hear Megan! thank you

      • megan May 23, 2012 at 11:10 am #

        but of course :) I hope you like No More One Day as well!

  62. Arabella FullofLife May 23, 2012 at 11:59 am #

    I wish you and this blog had been around when I was crashing through my career of disasters…!

  63. jillinthebox90 May 24, 2012 at 8:33 pm #

    Love the description. Definitely relate-able!

  64. JustNez May 24, 2012 at 10:40 pm #

    Well done. Well done. Although a little out of my range…but well done! Peace.

  65. A May 29, 2012 at 12:26 pm #

    this amazing blog! I’m almost 22 and recently single (I was engaged to my HS boyfriend) so this is so relatable… & hilarious. Love it!

    • Ella May 29, 2012 at 2:24 pm #

      thank you! i am sorry to hear about your recent breakup, take care. stop by anytime <3

  66. Maribel May 29, 2012 at 1:10 pm #

    Thank you for recently stopping by and my blog that talked about my managomy since I was a teenager. Married in my early twenties but didn’t rush to the alter because I was withchild. I didn’t believe in marriage. Both my husband and I came from divorced families. So far 12 years later it’s been the greatest adventure. Don’t feel pressured and trust me I started very young. Me & the hubby was old souls before we married. Lived a lot of life way too early. I think a lot can learn from your point of view and openness. ~Blessings on your journey.

    • Ella May 29, 2012 at 2:23 pm #

      Thank you! I really appreciate the advice and your outlook on marriage! True wisdom!! <3

  67. Wordz The Poet May 29, 2012 at 1:53 pm #

    So I DO have a doppelganger… I’m certainly glad her and her blog are as Dope as mine! So far this is VERY entertaining and true… exactly what I go for myself! Do you write anything else?

    • Ella May 29, 2012 at 2:22 pm #

      Nah I just write on this little page from time to time.

  68. bekpower May 29, 2012 at 1:55 pm #

    Nice blog! Love’d the peg-leg story ;)

    • Ella May 29, 2012 at 2:21 pm #

      thanksss <3

  69. Sarah Benesi May 29, 2012 at 5:47 pm #

    I love yours!

  70. Brian May 31, 2012 at 6:41 am #

    The entries I’ve read so far have been entertaining.

  71. saltygirl2011 June 5, 2012 at 3:59 pm #

    I love this description of your blog!

  72. California Kid June 5, 2012 at 8:10 pm #

    our blog is inspiring and instructive to many girls (and guys!). Keep up the good work you’re doing here. Cheers!

  73. themidlifesecondwife June 6, 2012 at 7:11 am #

    Glad to have discovered you and your whip-smart writing!

  74. Cougar June 7, 2012 at 9:22 am #

    I’ve been laughing at your blog for the last few days and fondly remembering that awesomeness of the college thanks to you!

  75. kamper June 13, 2012 at 9:19 am #

    Whichever side of the monogamy fence you land on, always bring your A game. Keep on writing!

    • Ella June 14, 2012 at 11:27 am #

      YES! thanks you

  76. chroniccravings June 13, 2012 at 11:01 am #

    Ella, you’re my sunshine on a gray day. :) !

  77. the Jotter's Joint June 13, 2012 at 3:17 pm #

    Thanks for stopping by the Jotter’s Joint. You have quite the story to tell. I’ll be sure to stop by here from time to time.
    Gail

  78. Nadine Heather June 15, 2012 at 9:27 am #

    This blog is a breath of fresh, honest as hell air. You’re a babe :)

    • Ella June 15, 2012 at 8:50 pm #

      thanks Nadine!

  79. ayoliag June 15, 2012 at 2:51 pm #

    Awesome! just to show some love I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger award! click link for details n such :D
    http://ayooutloud.wordpress.com/2012/06/14/the-versatile-blogger/

  80. colltales June 16, 2012 at 4:42 am #

    Thanks for stopping by at Colltales. Your blog is intriguing, perfect as a sunny day, an iced drink and pleasant conversation. Will come back often. Best

  81. titocwazy June 16, 2012 at 11:58 am #

    Nice, Ella. And thanks!

  82. Grandma Nancy June 16, 2012 at 12:54 pm #

    Had a good little chuckle reading “Post Hook-Up Etiquette.”

  83. Flying Colors Apparel June 18, 2012 at 8:46 pm #

    Great blog action! If you’re college sports fan, I may have a garment or two for ya. -A

  84. tajgreenemoviesinreview June 19, 2012 at 12:00 pm #

    Love your honestly on this blog. Nice read since you keep it real instead of PC. Ur blog reminds me of myself a few yrs ago…lol. Im a little past the frollicing now, but I know ur truth will help the young ones on their way up! Love it!

  85. abronxturtle June 20, 2012 at 7:21 am #

    Monogamy. Not exactly the scaries word in the English dictionary….but close. I know it scared the crap out of me. But I took at chance a long time ago. Tried to make it work. Had some great times and some lousy ones. In the end it didn’t work. But – I will say this – it taught me so much about myself. It taught me so much that I gave it another shot – and go figure…it’s fun!

  86. cotswoldsgirl June 26, 2012 at 1:13 pm #

    Hi Ella – I just nominated you for the One Lovely Blog Award! (I’m sure I’m not the first, love it though) Check my latest post for the rules to nominate the blogs you love too! http://cotswoldsgirl.wordpress.com/2012/06/26/and-the-nominations-are/
    CG xx

    • Ella July 19, 2012 at 9:51 am #

      Awesome, thanks!

  87. Abindra Raj Dangol July 7, 2012 at 7:52 am #

    Glad, I found your blog. Each and every writing has its story to learn. Happy writing!

  88. Fearless Expressioner July 19, 2012 at 11:46 am #

    hahaha your blog just brightened up my day, taking me down college memory lane! Good luck at finding what you are looking for :)

  89. [postage stamp required] July 19, 2012 at 11:58 am #

    ha! i love this blog! thanks!

  90. Kris Halley July 19, 2012 at 12:19 pm #

    I have found your blogs both amusing and informative. In fact, I find myself becoming fascinated with your take on the world.

    I am sure you have logged it somewhere, but in fresh words that come out of the present moment, describe the details of what you would consider an ideal man.

    • Ella July 19, 2012 at 1:24 pm #

      Hahahahahaha it is so much more enjoyable to list what I don’t want, then what I do. But il start composing it ASAP ;)

      • Kris Halley July 19, 2012 at 5:30 pm #

        I should let you know up front that I am a happily married man for two decades now. So, I have no alternate agenda of getting my name in your infamous column of the DISMISSED. In the couple of sentence you wrote, tells me you are getting closer to finding that perfect guy

      • Ella July 19, 2012 at 7:33 pm #

        Oh no I didn’t take it that way at all, no worries!

      • Kris Halley July 20, 2012 at 11:00 am #

        You may should have. Although I am happily married now for nearly 20 years, I was very much a womanizer in the years prior to that. I am going to draft a post just for you. I expect you will find a certain value in knowing a guy like me.

      • Kris Halley July 20, 2012 at 11:04 am #

        Maybe you should have. That would have been one of my tactics to meet u. B4 I found true love, I was a certifiable womanizer and can recognize my kind from a distance. My next post is for u and girls like u.

      • Kris Halley January 31, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

        Can you please forgive me for my delays in replying. I have more than one account open, and one wordpress acct was for the purpose of writing about my numerous travel experiences, but I posted incorrectly. CONT’D

      • Kris Halley January 31, 2013 at 4:42 pm #

        CONT’D
        I found myself unable to keep pace with all of the comments that started coming in. It caught fire with a combustion I would have never dreamed of.

        Despite trying to get to 100 or more comments every day I just checked my last notification, which read:

        Currently 1,477 comments are waiting for approval. Please visit the moderation panel:

        Those blogs are located under krishalley.wordpress@matadoru.com or some variation thereof.

        I am in the middle of designing a spiderweb network of sites that will connect together and the aggregate would be to showcase my entire body of work, from acting, modeling, art, music, and, writing, of course.

        My sudden spike in traffic made things difficult for certain browsers and some other errors were mentioned in the comments I have read so far.

        You will always be my first…person I followed. I am now following others, but not near as many as I wish for…I just need the time, or to make the time…

        ANYWAY

        It was so good to hear from you again. You are welcome to checkout my other site, using my name kris halley and matadoru should get you there. I was told my blog is front and center in most search engines-they were commenting on SEO.

        Keep in touch, hon
        and as always,
        be well and BE HAPPY
        Kris

  91. Kris Halley July 19, 2012 at 6:00 pm #

    I asked u 2 do that for the purpose of visualizing & focusing on what qualities u see in your perfect guy-get a clear picture, believe he is real, and expect to meet him very soon (b4 end of year, maybe)

    • Ella July 19, 2012 at 7:33 pm #

      Hahaha yea fingers crossed!!!

  92. Kris Halley July 19, 2012 at 6:04 pm #

    U will meet either “Mr. Right,” or “Mr. Right Now” either way it will bring u a lot of pleasure

  93. Lu August 8, 2012 at 7:08 am #

    Absolutely ah-mah-zing. I feel like this should be picked up for a tv show idea….

    • Ella August 8, 2012 at 7:37 pm #

      Bahaha I really appreciate that. I dont know if I agree, but I like where your head’s at.

  94. Veronica Messegee August 8, 2012 at 10:11 pm #

    I had to stop reading your posts under My Discarded Men. I was laughing too hard and didn’t want to wake the hubby; I will be back. Love how you express yourself.

    • Ella August 10, 2012 at 7:38 am #

      HAHA yay that is awesome Veronica!!! thank you

  95. katrillesmanydalliances August 9, 2012 at 2:58 pm #

    Great Blog! I can’t believe I have only just found this! I find myself the oposite. I dream of the day when monogamy shall turn my mind to mush, but I have taken to chronicling my slipups and mishaps in the meantime!

  96. Brett August 10, 2012 at 6:09 am #

    I love the humor of your posts. Keep up the writing!

  97. thelovemanifesto August 10, 2012 at 8:22 am #

    perhaps you will never experience monogamy. But is that such a bad thing?

    • Ella August 10, 2012 at 8:24 am #

      aww yes, I feel like monogamy is the ultimate goal.

  98. Rachel Greene August 13, 2012 at 11:11 am #

    Nominated you for a blogger award, Ella :) http://mytiarascrooked.com/2012/08/13/blogger-awards/

    • Ella August 16, 2012 at 10:07 am #

      awwww thank you Rachel!

  99. Ambrosia Jones August 14, 2012 at 9:49 am #

    think your blog is pretty dope, especially since we’re like, the antithesis of each other, with you being beautiful and having men like you and with me. . . not. Anyway. Thanks again for the ‘like’ and for stopping by. Come back soon.

    • Ella August 16, 2012 at 10:07 am #

      Haha thanks, I don’t think we’re antitheses at all!

  100. naughtynefarious August 18, 2012 at 3:44 pm #

    Ella; always enjoy reading your posts, with your good advice, interesting life stories and general knowledge on relationships. With that said, I have nominated you for the Inspiring Blogger Award. Please follow this link at your convenience to acquire your award. http://wp.me/p2tQ7q-37

    • Ella August 29, 2012 at 10:08 am #

      thanksss!

  101. Molly October 13, 2012 at 7:19 pm #

    Great blog. entertaining writing!

  102. graygoosetales June 16, 2013 at 3:37 pm #

    Holy crap!! You remind me of a character that I wrote about a few years ago, and just added to my short story blog. You actually ‘liked’ her story which is why I came to check out your blog. Too funny!!

  103. Wife After Death June 17, 2013 at 2:08 am #

    Hey Ella. Glad I found your blog, I’ve just spent an enjoyable time reading through your posts – you remind me of me when I was 22 (not that I’m THAT ancient now!) Continue to have fun and keep writing. I’ll definitely visit again! X

  104. Melody Balthaser June 17, 2013 at 4:06 am #

    Ella, Happy blogging…and dating- I would hate going back to the dating scene. My daughters are your age and it’s hard to watch ;)

  105. Popadopolis December 6, 2013 at 12:58 pm #

    I must say, this has been so enjoyable :) Thanks for reading and more importantly, thanks for writing!

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