“A woman who acts like she can do everything herself, usually ends up having to”- Why Men Love Bitches.
Before a I begin, it’s only fair I tell you that I am a feminist…’s worst nightmare. For my birthday my mom got me laser hair removal for my underarms. Guess which body part I’m getting done for Christmas? That proves feminism just isn’t for me. Sorry.
You know why chivalry’s dead ladies?? Because you let the guys kill it. When I’m walking with a guy, I won’t touch the door. I will literally stand there and wait for him to open it. I’m allergic to door handles. Why risk the germs anyway? His immune system is prob stronger, because he is a man, and men are stronger. (That’s why their razors and deodorants work better, duh).
Now there is a long list of chivalrous deeds we have flushed down the shitter. But the one that must remain is letting the guys pay on the first few dates. Not making the guys pay, letting them.
I think it’s perfectly fine before/during the meal to sweetly say, “Is this a date?” while batting your Bette Davis eyes. If he’s says “no” then he’s either a p*ssy or a dumbass, but at least you know it’s not a date. If he says “yes” then game on!
I’m gonna be real: I make more money than like 90% of guys my age. But I know that by the time I am 25, I will meet the infamous glass ceiling. This is why we have to train men now. He is not buying dinner because you’re hungry. You can feed yourself. Paying for dinner is just like any other gift. A gift you choose to accept.
Imagine if a guy gave you a diamond ring, then gave you the receipt and asked to “split” the cost. Hell NO! So why would you be okay with a guy expecting you to pay for half the meal? That being said, no one likes to give, give, give and not get, get, get.
On the 5th or 6th date when I start to feel like a burden, I usually sneak from the table to buy him a round of his fav beers at the bar. Our dinner date > 2 beers. But it’s not about being equal, it’s about reciprocity.
Once upon a time, I’d pay for dates to prove I don’t need a man to pay my bills. I’m over that shit now; if a guy doesn’t pay, there is no 2nd date. In my experience (and I got lots of it) a guy who lets the girls pay has either no backbone, no cajones, or no fiscal responsibility. Ew. Ew. Ew. AMF (adiosmotherfuther).